Danielle Muscato (she/her)

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

I am #disabled. That means multiple licensed medical doctors have examined me as their patient & concluded, in their consensus professional opinion, that I'm physically & mentally unable to work. Trolls—I'm just gonna direct you to this tweet every time you tell me to get a job. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

It's not that they don't care. They know. They understand. The cruelty is the point. They believe not only that you deserve their abuse, but that it's their job to abuse you—to "teach you a lesson." They justify abusing you while claiming to love you by calling it "tough love." — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

I disagree with this. While I agree with the spirit of what it says, in my experience, it's only partly true that narcissistic abusers don't care. In my experience, just as often, they are TRYING to hurt you, to be unfair, to deprive you of what you need, in order to punish you. https://t.co/9TTUV5Sxqo — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

It was so weird, when he came to my show that time. He didn't even make eye contact with me. He didn't wave or say hello to me. He didn't get a drink. He sat at a table for 3 minutes, half of one tune, and then he left. It was like he was stalking me or something. It was weird. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

He got me a pager when I was in junior high so that he could track my activities. He demanded I check in whenever I went, or he would scream at me. He often locked me out and made me sleep on the lawn, if I was working late (I'm a musician). He's been to ONE of my shows, ever. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

I grew up with this shit. Getting screamed at, blamed, objects thrown at me, threats, financial abuse. Ice water dumped on my head to wake me up for school. He used to shut off the router to punish me, even if I needed the internet for homework. Or rather, especially when I did. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

It's NOT that he can't control his anger. He has COMPLETE control over it. He can turn it on & off instantly when an outsider walks in the room, or when the phone rings. He's not out of control at all. It's a mask. He masks in front of outsiders. Underneath, he's violent. Cruel. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

Dr Joe Muscato desperately needs therapy. I made an ultimatum, that I would go back to not speaking to him, unless we went to family therapy. I was fed up with him SCREAMING at me every single night. He screamed at me for 2 straight hours for saying that. Full-out temper tantrum — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

It's not that he's poor. He's absolutely loaded. He bribed a cop with $100,000 so he wouldn't go to jail for assault & battery. It's not about money at all—He needs something to scream about, someone to scream at. He needs someone to blame. He can't look inward. He's scared to. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

He does this thing, that apparently is TEXTBOOK for narcissistic abusers. He ostentatiously displays wealth: wears a $22,000 wristwatch, drives a new 5-series BMW with a vanity plate, etc. But at the same time, pretends he can't afford groceries! He keeps 6 figures in checking!! — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

He SCREAMS at his wife, for buying the wrong thing at the grocery store, etc. Throws dishes. Has temper tantrums. The guy's a medical doctor & med school professor at @Mizzou! Now that he can't abuse me, his spousal abuse will skyrocket. I'm sure getting sued is pissing him off. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

He NEEDS me, so he has someone to release what we've been calling in therapy, his "anger valve." He bottles it up instead of communicating, & when behind closed doors, he EXPLODES in angry violence. Now that I escaped & cut all contact, I fear for my mother. He's gonna kill her. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

Bingo. My dad treats me like he hates me. I've learned from experience, how they treat you is how they feel about you. He punishes me for anything & everything he can think of, nonsensical things. But he also trapped me & financially abused me so I COULDN'T leave. This is why. https://t.co/E6aoOK3LHr — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

@lmaosuine420 Assault & battery is not "slights." And my "beliefs" about gender are non-negotiable. Not accepting trans people is bigotry. I'm not going to bother addressing other things you're saying if you're gonna be transphobic. No thanks. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

@lmaosuine420 Forgiveness is earned. Since he battered me & I left for the hotel, he's been doing everything he can think of to make my life WORSE. He tried to kill me. I had to take him to COURT to get him to return my Rx meds!! 6 days after back surgery! I was in AGONY. He WANTED that. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

@lmaosuine420 People who love you, care about how you feel. My dad only cares how I feel insofar as he can use it against me. My dad is shockingly selfish. I get what you mean, but he doesn't want forgiveness UNLESS that means I won't sue him. He's incapable of love. To him, love = control. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

@lmaosuine420 I've been on other opioids, among lots of other treatments for pain. I've been in pain mgmt for 2.5 years now. Currently I'm on tramadol, tizanadine, duloxetine, gabapentin (all Rx) & naproxen sodium (otc) for pain, plus daily official PT exercises, yoga, & mindfulness meditation — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

@lmaosuine420 https://t.co/WkqaAFvdmG — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

Turns out, my #dermatillomania (obsessive compulsive skin-picking disorder) is basically entirely #stress-related. Left: Living with my abusive parents, Nov 8, 2022 Right: Staying with musician friends & a playful dog 🐕, taken just now. #OCD #derm #dermatology https://t.co/bcMhgr3cNE — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

Also, the "started on" dates are not correct. That's just when they put them into the software. I've been on many of these for years and years. If you have any questions about my diagnoses etc, ask away. I'm very open about my health. I weigh 196 pounds, too. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

"Danielle, is it true you're on 15 medications?!" No, actually I'm on 26 of them lol 🙃 although not all of them are Rx, & several are PRN (as-needed). For example, I'm not sexually active, so I don't take tadalafil currently; my derm issue is doing really well right now, etc. https://t.co/K4sJn9BqrE — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

Seriously though.... Please, this isn't for me, this is for you. Do something useful with your time. This is time you won't get back, when you're old & dying. You really want to say to yourself, I spent hundreds of hours on a web forum talking about…me? Really? Get a life y'all. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

There is more to life than nitpicking my Twitter feed. The funniest part is how confident you are. Like, you analyze my meds, but you get them all wrong. Why even bother? Just ask me, I'll tell you what meds I take, I don't care if you know. I'm very public about my health issues — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

I recommend guitar. It's the most popular instrument in the world for good reasons. It's fun & easy to get started. There are plenty of free YouTube lessons. Guitar has saved my mental health so many times. Honestly it's a big part of the reason I've never jumped off a building. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

You don't have to take my advice of course, but like…learn an instrument or something? Read a book? Improve yourself? Maybe go to therapy? What you're doing, picking apart my posts…it's really unhealthy, mentally. And you're straight up incorrect about like 80% of it anyway lol — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

Seriously though, don't y'all have better things to do with your time than talk about... Me? Thousands of posts? Like... I'm flattered, but also, like... get a life? Your time on this Earth is short. Is stalking my posts really what you want to do with your life? It's kinda sad. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

I offered formal, written apologies to my exes, who I lied to and hurt. One of them accepted, and I'm working on writing that letter, right now. I was interrupted by this whole mess with escaping domestic abuse in late November of last year. I'm unhoused right now, you know? — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

I miss being productive. I miss having a real job and a good income. My parents' decades of abuse destroyed my potential. I'm bummed about it. I'm doing my best here, though. I don't lie & cheat like that anymore. I don't even date at all anymore. I don't want to hurt anybody. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

I really am #trans. I really do have serious heart issues, the same thing my dad has, the reason he has a pacemaker. My paternal grandfather died of heart issues in his 40s. I have debilitating back pain. I'm doing my best here, y'all. I can't keep a job, because of my health. — PolitiTweet.org

Danielle Muscato (she/her) @DanielleMuscato

The thing is, I know I'm fucked up. I'm not a narcissistic abuser, like my parents. I have borderline personality disorder & PTSD. Both disorders are acquired by *trauma.* It's not my fault. But it is my responsibility. That's why I'm in therapy twice a week. I want to be better — PolitiTweet.org