Elizabeth Bruenig

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@JPober But that problem is nonunique. You can also date, hook up, etc in a totally conventional way and still fall victim to that. All I'm saying is, at the point at which you're willing to commit, just be upfront about it, even though it's lame. — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@JPober Now: Is it possible some sociopathic liar will manipulate you for their own sadistic pleasure? Sure, always possible. So you married an axe murderer, or worse, didn't marry a person you thought was invested in marriage. That badly sucks. Nothing can prevent that. — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@JPober But the 'self' is always changing. You just accrue relationships, values, and obligations — the things that *constitute* a self — and those things tell you what you have to do, which tells you who you are. You can do that sooner or later! — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@NorthCaroliNats yes you have to make yourself unappealing to those guys by being extremely square and very, very, very straightforward about it — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@tschu_22 i'm...not? not all women even want to settle down, lotta different ways to be happy out there — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@abusurdist @tschu_22 i don't think it's necessarily fraudulent or inauthentic if there's never been any discussion of expected outcomes — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@abusurdist @tschu_22 anything not explicitly excluded by the tweet, which is virtually everything, could factor in. the more parsimonious way to think of the scenario described is to presume it's meant plainly: long relationships where partners had different expectations. — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@abusurdist @tschu_22 ok, but the original tweet had nothing to do with abuse, it was about a man dating a woman without intending to marry her, while the woman intended to marry the man at some point. nothing about that even implies abuse. sure, abuse could also factor in. so could aliens. — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@tschu_22 Hmm I think of abuse as something categorically different than wasting someone's time — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@tschu_22 But we're not talking about abusive relationships, we're talking about relationships where the people want different things, right? — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@tschu_22 but if you can't even talk to the man about marriage and you want to be married, then you should not be with him! — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@abusurdist i'm not sure that's true! — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

i think you just gotta be totally upfront about wanting to be married and sort out the people who aren't sure if they want to be married or not, or think there's some future chance they might want to be married but aren't sure. committers gotta find committers imho — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@JPober Lie detector machines are preposterous as a concept imho — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@JPober i can think of an easy way around that! — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

you can always just verbally communicate that you're interested in marriage and that, if x months in, he knows he's not interested, you guys should part ways. right? — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

but they let you send your kids to school for free, why would you pay for it. it's like asking if you can pay to use the city sewer for some reason — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

no i love them — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

haters will persecute me for this teaching but imho one of the greatest meals of summer is a big slice of ripe tomato with salt, pepper, and mayo on lightly toasted bread — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

well the clintons didn't do an interpersonal harm on me; i just didn't think clinton was a better dem candidate than bernie. how forgiveness can operate on the institutional/corporate level where cause/effect are so distant is something i'm still thinking about — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

RT @JoePalekas: [Forgiveness] emerges not from a place of moral victory, but from the realization of human brokenness, the recognition of t… — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

>it’s not especially important to me that my friends share my opinions >it’s not especially important to me that my friends are correct about things >if someone is wrong, bad, or even evil, they still need the fellowship of other people >here’s a meme(?) I saw https://t.co/wv2YSgiNKn — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

trying out some revolutionary takes: >people can be wrong about things while not being “total human garbage” >people’s opinions can change over time >doesn’t really make sense to treat ordinary people like politicians, I.e., presume their wrong views are poised to become law — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@PaulSorrentino3 A chip? — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

https://t.co/4fDuYiy5w0 — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

literally stated in the piece — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

RT @ebruenig: I wrote a small manifesto on forgiveness here: https://t.co/FoPBX0wK3g — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

I wrote a small manifesto on forgiveness here: https://t.co/FoPBX0wK3g — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

@tingth need some more details on how this will negatively impact the makeup of their community lmfao — PolitiTweet.org

Elizabeth Bruenig @ebruenig

nextdoor is just an endless source of delight https://t.co/hTE0NRwSd2 — PolitiTweet.org